Look guys! My first TMI Tuesday! This week's topic was "sex talk & sex ed." Could I have chosen a more perfect topic to start with?
1. Have you ever investigated having an open relationship?
- Have you tried to have an open relationship?
My partner and I have investigated an open relationship but it didn't work out. He was open to me seeing another person but things fell apart. C'est la vie. We're not looking to keep our relationship open at this point but I think if someone else came along, we'd explore opening up our relationship or even entering into a polyamorous relationship. Until then, we're happy with just each other.
2. Do you have any sexual phobias?
Oh god, never ever choke me or gag me. Don't even touch my neck. People who touch
my neck or choke me must have a death wish. I will gag, flail, punch,
kick, bite, and vomit. Do. not. touch. my. neck. I can see the appeal of it for other people but it is something I can not stand.
- What have you done to manage or overcome them?
I'm not trying to overcome it. I kind of have no desire to
overcome it. My partner understands I'm terrified of being choked or
gagged and he respects it.
3. What is the best new sexual activity you have tried in 2013?
Anal stimulation! I finally bought my first butt plug after a lot of deliberation. I can't wait to explore even more. My partner expressed some interest in anal play a while ago but neither of us were dying to try it; it was just a possibility we were both open to. I'm glad I finally made the decision to buy a butt plug to get started.
4. Have you ever called into a sex advice radio/television show or written to a sex advice columnist?
- Was it helpful?
I haven't, surprisingly.
5. Would you use the services of a sex therapist? Why or why not?
Ya know, I'm not sure. I've considered going into the field of sex therapy myself. Without sounding too cocky, I don't know that a sex therapist would be beneficial to me since I am educated in the field and I continue to research sexual therapy.
6. Should sex therapists be allowed to engage in actual sexual activities with clients? Why or why not?
Sex therapists? No. Sexual surrogates? Yes. I think a sexual therapist should keep their practice separate from any relations with their client. Sexual relationships can get messy and that could easily interfere with their practice. That said, I think it's a different story for a sexual surrogate to engage in sexual activities with a client. Sexual surrogates usually operate under the supervision of a therapist to assist a client.
Bonus: Have you read any adult sex ed books lately? What do you recommend? I've been so busy finishing up my Bachelors degree that I haven't been able to read many sex-ed books. However, one of my absolute favorite books is Babeland's "Moregasm."
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